Foster Care Myths


If you are considering fostering but think there is something preventing you from doing so, the chances are you are not the first person to think it. Click on the links below to learn the truth around many common myths or fears regarding fostering.

For more information call us on 02380 230400 and ask as many questions as you need to. Please also see Foster Care Myths which may already cover some of your queries.

Long gone are the days when foster carers were expected to do their job for the love of it! Fairways Foster Care pay professional fostering rates, a minimum of £395 per week for each child, which covers financial costs plus a reward element for carers.  We need carers who can give their full-time attention to the children/young people who stay with them. Many of our carers have viewed fostering as a career change and have not looked back! Some of our carers have been housewives, builders, shop assistants, nurses – a bag of previous careers! You will not have to give up your current employment to train and to complete your assessment, as this can be done during evenings/weekends.
You do not have to be in current employment to foster but need to evidence commitment to past employment. People from all walks of life and previous careers may possess the necessary skills to foster, and choose fostering as a new career.

Although individual circumstances will dictate, benefits received may not be affected by choosing to foster, as much of the financial reimbursement for fostering is for the benefit of the child. Fairways Foster Care will facilitate self-employment/tax advice.

In the last completed survey, over half of 45-54 year olds believed they were too old to foster. There is NO upper age limit!  Fairways Foster Care recognise that many people have the life experience, physical and emotional energy and understanding to successfully foster, irrelevant of age (minimum of 21). Our current carers ages range from 30 – 60+!  Whatever your age or personal circumstances you can become a foster carer. As long as you have the commitment and room in your home and your heart, you can help make a huge positive difference to the life of a child/young person.
You do not need to own your own home to foster.  Some of our carers live in privately rented accommodation, Local Authority accommodation and some own their own homes. As long as each child can have their own bedroom you can foster, and you are not at risk of losing your home.
You do not have to be a parent to foster but will need some experience and knowledge of caring for children/young people, either through family contact, employment or volunteering etc. Fairways Foster Care can help you get the necessary experience during assessment if all other criteria are met. You will receive excellent training, development and support, so you are prepared for the challenges and rewards of being a foster carer.
If you do have your own children living at home, we’ll carefully match foster children or young people to the needs of your family and circumstances. This will be seen as part of the assessment process and will be explored fully with the social worker.  (See Will Fostering affect my own children? page for further information and advice).
Fairways Foster Care does not have any requirements about your marital status. Our foster carers may be single, married, divorced, widowed, in a civil partnership or living with a long-term partner. Several single people foster successfully with us, and your assessment process will identify your personal support network, over and above the high level of support Fairways Foster Care will give you.
Fairways Foster Care welcomes applications from all people from walks of life regardless of their sexual orientation. Whether you are straight, gay, or bisexual we recognise that people bring different skills, knowledge and life experiences to fostering.
We need a diverse range of foster carers that reflect the different cultures of children/young people who need a foster home. Fairways Foster Care welcomes applications from all ethnicities who can bring different skills, life experiences and knowledge to the fostering role.
Fostering has transformed the lives of some neglected and vulnerable children/young people. At Fairways Foster Care our carers have made huge positive differences to a child/young person life and have prompted significant progress in child’s wellbeing, emotional stability and personal growth.

Here are a few things our carers have said about fostering

Foster Care Myths“I was very nervous when we had our first placed child, still wondering what the reality would be following all the training and assessment. I soon realised that simply the stability of being there for a child helped start the trust for them. The day to day care, record keeping, visits, meetings and things soon became part of our household routine. Some of the children were clearly traumatised and some would push boundaries to the limit. I have asked myself sometimes if I had done the right thing but when you start to see positive changes, no matter how small, it makes it all worth every minute of your time and patience. Fostering isn’t an easy job, but the rewards are priceless”.

“Fostering gives a child a chance at having a normal, stable life and allows them to be a child instead of worrying about different things. It gives them someone who will not reject them and who will listen to what they have to say. It helps them to achieve personal goals however small or big. We think every child deserves the opportunity to experience a loving, stable family life. The Collective Care philosophy of Fairways Foster Care made us feel fully supported in our role and gave us the tools to repair some of the damage these children have suffered.”

“As a carer, I would say that if you have an interest in childcare, and you have the time and patience to give, then fostering is the most worthwhile thing you can do! It is not easy sometimes as the children can come to you with many issues that they need your support with, but if you can support them through difficult times the rewards for both them and you are immense. The benefits of seeing a child grow in self-confidence, becoming contented and well balanced outweigh any negative challenges that you can face at times.”

If your concern hasn’t featured here, or if you just want to know more, call us now on 02380 230400 and we’ll be happy to answer any of your questions.